Those of you who follow my blog regularly may have noticed I’ve been a bit quiet for the past month. I have had a lot going on recently, and most of the time I try to keep the personal details to a minimum when I explain my absences. But, as this has been a particularly long absence, I felt like it might be a nice change to share a little more of my story with you. This post also happens to be my 50th, so it gives me a chance to do something special to celebrate the milestone.
Last year, I was set to graduate from the University of Central Lancashire, where I have studied journalism. However, due to a number of health issues and other obsticles, I failed to pass my shorthand, and as such I was forced to attend the job centre for a few months and try to complete my course at the same time. Through the job centre, I landed the position of community researcher in the Preston area, employed by Contour Housing and working in partnership with the university’s Bespoke project and with People’s Voice Media, a not-for-profit organisation based in Salford.
The first reason for my distraction is easily the workload. I enjoy my job thoroughly, but the commute between Darwen and Preston can get tedious and tiring, and the number of different projects active at any one time is often quite overwhelming. In order to catch my breath, I took a holiday last week and enjoyed a break from worrying about the office. I’m now back, with renewed energy and motivation, ready to tackle my latest list of tasks – the most engaging of which has to be organising the end-of-contract showcase event we are holding next month.
But wait, I know you’re thinking – didn’t she just say holiday? So why couldn’t she carry on blogging while she’s away? This brings me nicely to the second distraction. After 4 years of tireless stressing, with all the blood, sweat and tears thrown in for good measure, I have at long last passed my degree! As of this Friday, following a fancy ceremony in front of hundreds of people, I will be a graduate from the University of Central Lancashire.
But, as everyone who knows me at all will be well aware, that’s just too easy! There has to be a hitch somewhere…
The first problem was my accounts. I had to go to the univeristy building for my results on the day they were released, and even then I was convinced I hadn’t passed. Then I discovered why my accounts had been blocked – the univeristy thought I was paying my own tuition! And, as this was now June, it was of course well overdue. So, after waving forms from the student loands company at them, I managed to get my accounts unblocked… only to find out I wasn’t properly registered to graduate. So I had to sort all of THAT out, which took a few days. Finally, after I was properly registered, all that remained was ordering my gown. A simple task? Of course not! The website wouldn’t work, and by the time I managed to get in touch with the organisation, they’d closed the orders. So, on Friday morning, I shall be running around The Guild Hall at 8.30am, looking for a spare gown and hat. But I’ve always had to work hard for this degree, and even if I have to keep working right up till the ceremony, I’m going to keep at it! Nothing’s coming between me and graduation!
The other issue that arose from the ceremony is that, due to a number of factors, none of my family will be able to attend. At first, I was a little upset by this. Not at those family members in particular, but I felt a little despondant that not only would I be missing the members of my family who aren’t with us anymore, but I’d be missing all of them. Still, ever the unconventional one when it comes to everything, I struck on the perfect way to use my tickets. I invited two very special people to come and support me on my big day.
The first of these people is my very best friend, Alex. I’ve known him for 6 years now, and in all that time he’s remained one of the people I fight with less often than anyone else. He always understands me, even when I’m being a head case, and if anything ever goes on in my life I can never resist telling him to see what he thinks about it. And, 99% of the time, he says exactly what I’m thinking. But I still like to hear him say it anyway.
I’ve never had a friend I’ve loved so fiercely and loyally in all my life, and I doubt I will ever find anyone else who will understand me the way he does. I can’t think of anyone else outside of my family that I’d rather have at my graduation. After all, to me he is family.
The second person invited to my graduation is also my third distraction. I’ve never been particularly lucky in relationships, whether that counts as friendships or more. I know I’m a handful of a person who can’t be taken in large doses or I tend to cause headaches in those around me. So when I find somebody who seems to be immune to my intensity, such as friends like Alex, I find myself highly respecting of their patience.
Three years ago, I wasn’t in a good place for a number of reasons. But during that spell of disaster, I met someone who made me feel different… I found myself watching him with such fascination. He looked so handsom, and his personality was incredible. We could talk for hours about nothing, and yet had so many things in common. But back then, we were both in relationships of our own, and though I felt a strong connection with him, I settled it into a comfortable, trusting friendship. I believe in fate, and I knew if it was meant to happen, it would.
Well, 3 years later, I admitted to him how I felt. And I was delighted to find out he felt the same. Me and Ben have been seeing each other for just over a month, and I can honestly say I’ve never met anyone in my life who is more like me. We get on so well, and I love spending time with him. I trust him completely, even enough to let him take care of me after my birthday party. That happens to be my fourth distraction, as I spent ages collecting my costume. I dressed up as Jen from Primal, and had a brilliant time! But I was extremely drunk afterwards, and Ben took perfect care of me. He also drove me and a few others down to Alton Towers the weekend after for some theme-park fun. This meant a huge deal to me, as I had previously arranged to go on a number of occasions and hadn’t made the trip. Spending time with Ben, Alex, and so many of my other friends, has made some of the happiest memories of my life.
However, it can’t all be play, and now things are starting to look busy. My job ends on the 25th of August, and so it’s the perfect time to look to the future. I aim to spread my list of contacts as wide as I can over the next few weeks, and that involves more blogging, more reviewing, and a lot more work. This ties in well with Ben, as he is just about to start nights, and so I will have much more time during the week to be proactive.
My next goal is to move to Manchester, or somewhere similar. My life in Preston has been fun, but I’m not a student anymore. I’m more mature, more focused and much more experienced in so many ways than when I started university. It’s time to take that to the next level.
But, in the spirit of taking each day as it comes, my first point of concentration is this week. I wish luck to Alex, who has his own graduation on Wednesday. He’s worked hard, and deserves the reward. I also send my love to my mum, Susan. She passed away 19 years ago this Sunday. I know she would have loved to be there this Friday, and I believe she will be in spirit, along with my grandma, Eva, who also passed away a couple of years ago. They are two of the bravest, strongest and most inspirational people I know, and I hope that I can live up to their memories.
Wish me luck on Friday, and with the future.
Kirsty Watkinson